Dating is quite a big deal. At least, that's how I experienced it myself. I also noticed it through dating stories here at Funky Fish. We all are a bit reluctant to it, so it seems. Often, after some preliminary email contact we take our time before organizing an initial date. On the one hand, this is quite a healthy and wise attitude. Obviously, you don’t just go out with a total stranger. However, on the other hand an over-waiting attitude puts an end to spontaneity. It's the power of spontaneous actions that can make a date so much more attractive.
Dating is a stage of romantic relationships in humans whereby two people meet socially with the aim of each assessing the other's suitability as a prospective partner in an intimate relationship or marriage. It is a form of courtship, consisting of social activities done by the couple, either alone or with others. The protocols and practices of dating, and the terms used to describe it, vary considerably from country to country and over time. While the term has several meanings, the most frequent usage refers to two people exploring whether they are romantically compatible by participating in dates with the other. With the use of modern technology, people can date via telephone or computer or meet in person. (en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dating)
Obviously you don’t want to force anything. But if chatting with that other person was fun and pleasant, then why not date? After all, in real life, you’ll have to find out whether that other person is a match or not. In order to discover whether the other person suits you, it’s more than just texting.
What is it that makes us so reluctant when we plan the first date? Is it the tension, uneasiness, lack of time or priority? Or are we forgetting how to make direct contact with people due to all the digital tools we have? Are we forgetting how to converse because expressing ourselves in our digital life are limited to a maximum number of characters? Are we forgetting what it is like to have real-life encounters with people we do not know yet?
When I look around on the street, on public transport, in shops and restaurants, I see a lot of people who are consumed by their mobile phones. Eye contact is not made. People do not even notice each other.
When you approach someone you often get funny looks. Or someone instantly clasps their bag or coat pocket, afraid you might be a pickpocket. It also seems that we greet each other a lot less than we used to do.
Is the desire for individualization and digitization a threat to dating and relationships? It might just be the case. The purpose of dating is to meet others, while social media and the focus on the individual make us more inclined to spend less time on real-life contact and get absorbed in our own world.
This may be a somewhat dreary look at the use of social media. At the same time, it’s great that dating sites such as Funky Fish are a digital venture for more interaction between people in daily life. Partly thanks to dating sites it has become a lot easier to meet other, like-minded singles.
So don’t be fainthearted, take advantage of the possibilities of online dating, make dates and enjoy the encounters that you have.
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